Thursday, July 31, 2014

Attachment Parenting- Rocking my Toddler.

I have always considered myself an attachment parent and think overall that style/method of parenting has worked well for Sammy. I also consider myself a common sense type of parent and hope to not be raising the most spoiled kid on the planet. So I do find that is a tough line of grey area.

Often when something goes wrong, my husband is more apt to use a timeout. I am more apt to try to distract and comfort out of the situation. I consider my son not getting what he wants/ getting to continue to act up as the natural consequence and my husband considers the time out the actual consequence. Usually we make this work and have a good understanding. I try to be consistent and positive.

This morning Sammy was in full on I don't want to listen mode. Throwing laundry down the stairs, which at the time seemed pretty horrific. He also didn't want to get dressed and did not want to go to school today. Sammy is so similar to me sometimes. We both need a few minutes in the morning to sit in bed and let our brains catch up to our bodies. We need that down time and relaxed morning to ease into the day. Only a few minutes but they are critical. We were not making good time this morning.

After I corrected him for throwing said clothing down the stairs- he started crying. My stress levels were off of the charts. We're going to be late. Why am I so late... All of the negative crap I poison myself with. He sat on my lap for a second and said he needed a blanket. A few second more he hopped down, wrapped himself in his bamboo blanket and said.. "Mama rock me."

So for a  few minutes this morning that all stopped. I  got to rock my sweet little (or not so little) three year old boy. I know these moments are fleeting. There are only so many more times in his life I will get to be a comfort to him in that way. It was heaven. He smiled sweetly and I could see the little baby he once was all snuggled up. I know it will be one of the moments I look back on when he is an adult.

In that moment I was so glad I have done things the way I have. That I have chosen physical comfort in times of intense emotions so that he knows that there is a safe place to come to when things are overwhelming.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Top Threes... for my Three Year Old!

Top Threes... for my Three Year Old!

1) Bear Set Carters 2) Raglan Carterse 3) Sweatshirt Carters 4) Gap 5) Vest Gap 6) Jeans Gap
7) Pirate Shirt Boden 8) Red Pants Boden 8) Sweater Boden

Summer Break

First off, sorry for the lack of posts around here. I try to update 2-3 times a week with something worth reading. I just felt uninspired. I don't know if it is Summer boy's clothing or just too much of a hipster influence/classic influence that were at odds with each other in my mind but I wasn't up for awesome boys clothing. It honestly took everything in me to get Sammy to look cute for the Summer. With the temps being a bit cooler lately I think I am starting to get this back in the right direction.

Second- sick Grandpa. My grandfather is battling Pancreatic Cancer. Well losing to be more exact. If anyone had a chance, I really though it would be him but that is seemingly not the case. He is very thin and I am scared we won't see another Summer with him. I am pretty certain that is the case. I don't have much experience with death at 32. I feel so blessed for that, but I am just out of my depth and very sad.

Lastly- trying to juggle one million little details and take care of my family. Like everyone else. I am just not doing a great job of it lately. I took on some added responsibility in my extended family and honestly it is more overwhelming than I expected given my limited bandwidth. I am getting there though. I just need to have more time in the day and a clean house.

I do have a few posts planned for this week. What we are getting for Fall, good shoe choices, and online shopping tips for getting great pieces.

Happy Summer! Hope everyone is enjoying these last few weeks and school starting!

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Summer Break

sorry for the lack of posts lately. Things are so busy and I know after the 4th things will slow down a bit. I would rather take my time and post good content than rush just for pageviews.